10 Tips for Being A Good Friend

Good friends are hard to find these days. But when you do search high and low for that quality person, you’ll want to hang onto that friendship. However, it goes both ways. A friendship can hardly flourish if it is just one sided.

I sat down with my beautiful friend, Katie Baird at Born to Explore the World and discussed what it means to be a good friend.

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  1. TAKE THE TIME:

    Taking the time to listen to each other’s Spotify playlists, knowing full well their blood and sweat went into creating their own little slice of heaven.

  1. VISIT THEM:

    When they’re sick, and provide any sort of comfort food. They will remember this next time you’re sick.

  1. BE NATURAL:

    Be raw with them. Make sure you give your friends the privilege of knowing the real you at all times, even if it drags a whole range of emotions with it.

  1. BE HONEST:

    Call them on their shit. It’s 100% okay that if you feel they are making a crazy life decision to pull them up on it. However, when they’re being over emotional, let them cry and rant to you as well. Sometimes you might not have the wisdom to give to them but they will find it comforting just knowing that you are listening.

  1. ANSWER CALLS:

    Answer their Skype calls or phone calls when their overseas and need your help ASAP and be willing to spend hours on the phone with them talking about every situation with them, and wishing you were together again. We get it, everyone has busy schedules so if you can’t answer their calls then just send them a message saying you’re thinking of them. It’s simple.

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  1. SUPPORT THEM:

    Celebrate with them. They’re victory is your victory. Seeing them happy makes you happy. So make sure you show it.

  1. SHARE:

    What’s mine is yours. Be so comfortable around them that there is no boundaries and what you can and can’t borrow and share…just not boyfriends.

  1. LOVE THE FAM:

    Treat their family like you’d treat your own. Ask about them, because almost instinctively you already care about them.

  1. DON’T BE OVERPROTECTIVE:

    And don’t be overly clingy. Be happy in who you are, and your confidence that the friendship makes you both shine – not one of you hiding behind the other.

  1. ESCAPE WITH THEM:

    They will escape with you when you feel the need to get away. Even if it’s just to pick you up for an ice-cream or a long road trip. They will be there.

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The Dating Series part 3/4

FRESH on the blog today, The Dating Series part 3/4. If you have neglected the opportunity to check out the previous post on the same subject please do so now before continuing. HERE & HERE.

But the middle grows nearer- So what are we? 

I think our mindsets are changed into “it is okay to do this or that” and in a sense get away with it without real consequence. – Celine, 23

A date should be something YOU love not what is classed as ‘romance’. – Shelby, 18

Does the word “date” actually need a label? We are the ones who created it and made it to be perceived and seen that way. Maybe people just need to be more adventurous and not be so repetitive with each person in coping each other.- Jade, 18

I feel, perhaps, already holds a negative connotation and puts out this feeling of yearning for a by-gone era. Slapping a year on it makes begs the question what is 2016? It’s a time where the world is incredibly globalized, everything is at our fingertips and apparently that’s all we care about. – Alethea, 22

Divorce is so common, “escapes” and “Ctrl-Z” on relationships has become prevalent. When is it that you’re truly committed? After you say “i do”, because the “for better or for worse”, “for richer or for poorer” seems like pretty lovely shallow words that have lost their value… If times get tough- the solution is divorce. – Alana, 19

How has dating changed from the past?

I still personally feel really guilty when we go out and he pays, because if we both did it, I feel like I should pay my part. Dating has definitely changed from ‘courting, meeting the father for approval, picking her up, taking her out, movie style’ to ‘lets hang out for a while and then we can invest money into this when we actually are sure on making this a proper thing’ – Ashley, 18

I think these days parents don’t have a say in really who you date, there isn’t the official asking or interrogation like there was years ago- I think parents are more trusting and accepting especially due to how society is these days. – Jodie, 19

I really don’t think we can speak for the romance of a by-gone era. We weren’t even alive. All we’ve seen are photographs and films. And what do we know of photographs and films from our days of Instagram and snapchat? That it’s a presentation of the very best moments of our days. It’s not the 24/7 reality. Perhaps our grandmothers have told us stories about how romantic that summer in ’47 was when she met your grandfather and he walked 7641939 miles to her house everyday just so he could give her a flower. And damn it, that does sound romantic but what do people remember of their lives? The very best parts (hopefully)! What that story doesn’t take account of is the hardships in the relationship or otherwise (hello post-war period, hello scarcity, hello leaving school at 15 to support the baby-booming family, hello completely changed international order, hello emerging middle class and subsequent lower class). – Alethea, 21

We are in a generation where as women, we are far more independent, far more empowered, and have far more opportunities than we have ever had! I don’t believe we should still conform to the old style dating where the man gets stuck for paying for everything… We are on a pretty level playing field now ladies… – Alana, 19

Well there you go, the girls have said it so well I don’t have anything else to add, for now.

Catchya for PART 4/4 Next week. x

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Top: All About Eve // Pants: White Closet // Shoes: Shubar // Body: My mumma // Photo: Ivy Mullins 

The art-form of coddiwompling

Oh hello,

I was on the hunt for a cool word to get tattooed on my wrist (eventually when I have the money) and with an obvious interest in Travel I came across this cool article on Hello Giggles titled 6 Words That Every Travel Junkie Should Know. 

The word coddiwomple stood out on the page like a sore thumb. You’ll never hear me saying that expression again, but I feel it fit the moment.

Coddiwomple: “To travel in a purposeful manner towards a vague destination”.

I have been on a quest to find a word to perfectly describe me. I can gladly say that I have now found that word. Alas! I don’t have to explain the way I like to live my life. Instead I will point all those who question me straight to the dictionary (most likely the slang dictionary because I’ve never seen this word before) and tell them to take it all in!

The past few months of living in Brisbane have gone by so quickly, and that scares me a lot. However I am comforted by what I have accomplished in such a short amount of time. Who knew that vague walking in a purposeful manner would actually equip you with so many observational skills.

It’s so difficult to adapt a similar mind-set towards your mundane lifestyle to that of being in a foreign land. But here are some tips on how you can enjoy your life while you feel stuck in the mud.

  1. REFLECT. Before you do anything else in the morning spend a few minutes reflecting on the day just been and choose to make today the best you can. My mind is a chaotic mess. But if I spend a few moments praying about how I will get through the day, then I won’t be doing it in my own strength anymore. It’s so easy to give it over to someone else to deal with. Wise words from my mother, obviously.
  2. WRITE. If you’re not a writer than sing. If you’re not a singer than dance. I won’t continue with this, but you understand the meaning. Do whatever you feel passionate about, it will set you up to continue that passion throughout the day.
  3. LISTEN to some music which ignites your soul and makes you generally excited about life. Cue spotify playlist: Elz
  • Be The One – Dua Lipa. This track literally makes me want to jump into a 70’s music video and start pulling out all those classic funky dance moves. *Think* the snorkel, the disco finger, the bus stop and sprinkler.
  • Let’s Dance To Joy Division- The Wombats. This is literally the coolest song. Come along to one of our fortnightly wine and pizza nights and we’ll get you dancing to this in no time! (see photo below)
  • Lisa Sawyer – Leon Bridges - Seriously, this song will touch your soul like no other song can. Just slow dance with someone to it, please. Do it for me.
  • One Dance – Drake ft. Whizkid and Kyla - I give you full permission to shake your hips in whatever way you want. Particularly on a Friday afternoon when the week is over, but if your more of a Monday morning person – than get those hips shaking.
  • Love Me – The 1975 - Pretend you’re a famous drummer, or electric guitar player or just sit back and bask in the beauty that is Matt Healy’s sexy voice. Your choice.
  • Oceans – Hillsong - You can’t go wrong with this track, and that’s the honest truth.

Now go out and make your life amazing. But mostly, stop being so serious about everything. Have fun coddiwompling my friends.

Here are some photos of my past week. It’s been a hectic one.

Until next week,

Elly-Grace x

K.I.S.S Keep It Simple Silly

“There is only one rule when writing up your research journals and essays!” The Ancient History teacher said aloud to her new Grade 11 pupils as she wrote the letters K.I.S.S on the board. “Keep it simple…Stupid! Well actually, we will instead use the word silly, because none of you are stupid”. She exclaimed to the class. Naïve Elly-Grace was in the classroom that day and she never understood what her teacher meant until she found herself staying up until 3am most nights in order to get these research journals complete. For she kept finding the most complicated way to record her research notes. She had now moved onto Grade 12 and was at the Library wasting away more trees as I printed yet another journal that had bulked it’s way to a total of 45 pages. Elly still hadn’t learnt the secret…. And she wasn’t due to learn this secret until this year. She now calls it Grade 13 in the school of ‘LIFE’.


Hello Friendly Faces, I’m really trying to learn how to simplify things more and more everyday. I have found that the main cause of all teenage problems these days is the re-occurring pop-ups of what other people are doing in their lives. This causes us to doubt our own lives and makes us feel unsatisfied/ not happy with the life we have. On every account we compare our lives to everyone else’…. from clothes – to health – to beauty – to relationships. However, what does comparing ourselves have to do with the K.I.S.S principle?? The definition of comparing is to ‘Measure the differences between’. Our differences are found by measuring the materialistic values of the things we possess. From items such as cars and houses to holidays and outings, all purchased with that colourful printed-paper and plastic never-ending valued cards. I told myself that this year I would keep things simple as I tried to simplify every aspect of my life. I didn’t want people or things to turn into 45-page research journals- a waste of my time and energy. Since leaving school I’ve been granted the opportunities to delegate my time to those I really care about. The drama and stress free people, those who could also manage to KEEP IT SIMPLE. When you have a quick think back to those younger days. We didn’t have the social media platforms such as Instagram, Snapchat and Facebook to fuel our addiction toward things we think we are missing out on. Therefore teenagers didn’t have room in our hearts to feel so inadequate like we do today. As plainly as I can put it, everything was… p l a i n   a n d   s i m p l e . END POSTS

Rise and Shine Sleepyhead

After binge watching the most obsessive show, Hart Of Dixie for 2 days straight all cuddled up in my beautiful doona…(oh gosh I’m the worst case of procrastinator syndrome there is, just because I said donna I started researching for a new donna online… no wonder I struggled my way through my Ancient history research assignments last year!)

Where was I again— ah yes, with my doona wrapped around me, fuzzy socks on my feet, warm coffee perched in my hand whilst the rain poured outside creating a gloomy yet soul satisfying ambience. My absolute favourite weather.

And it was in this peaceful moment when I thought I should share with you my morning routine which I have successfully completed a week of! I only just started this routine but I’ve been pretty happy with how I have maintained it thus far!

But before I write all about this I must have a shower first as I am extremely cold from my spontaneous run in the rain, who knew it could be so liberating. As a girl my mind is constantly thinking about anything from tacos to boys to instagram uploads to boys again. It never stops thinking, my mind is never empty. I asked a guy the other day if he is always constantly thinking about something to which he replied with something like, “Nah I can think of nothing at all if I want too” …. and this never happens to me, EXCEPT when I run in the rain, so I like to do that often despite the frostbite feet I have afterwards as my brother hogs the shower. Oh god I’m babbling again…

If you adapt this morning routine I guarantee you will start the day in the most refreshing way possible!

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Firstly I wake up (and my kitten keeps sleeping.. see above ^), this only happens after the alarm has been set and re-set a trillion times… which results in me waking up half an hour after I supposed to. (Yes that alarm that says ‘Wake up and do yoga’ never works….how do I know, cause I still don’t know how to do a simple Yoga/Pilates routine!)….Eventually I stumble out of bed.

Head to the glory that is, the kitchen!

IMG_6148 1. Mix up some Apple cider vinegar in a cup of luke warm water. Apple cider vinegar has been the best not only for my overall health but I have noticed it play a huge difference in my skin. I started applying apple cider vinegar with a cotton bud on facial blemishes before I go to sleep at night, and by morning I have found that they have reduced in size! I then hop into the shower to allow time for the apple cider vinegar to fully nourish and alkaline your body before breakfast.

2. BREAKFAST IS KEY to starting your morning off with a BANG!

Soo… force yourself to make a real breakfast.

A few of my favourites are: 

– Smashed avocado on German multi-grain sourdough bread with s&p

– Omelette w/ tomato, feta cheese, spinach, olives.. etc: anything you can find in the fridge that you think would taste good!

– Gluten free blueberry pancakes w/ coated cinnamon and honey

– Smoothie with banana, mango, blueberry, coconut milk, chia seeds, ice, honey and spinach.

– Fruit salad w/ greek yogurt, cinnamon and honey.

3. Then I always add either coffee or green tea, and a small bowl of freshly sliced apple with cinnamon (as you can see it’s my favourite thing to put on almost anything!!)

4. CRUCIAL PART of your morning is whilst you sit and eat your breakfast you are to have 15 minutes of technology free time. If you are not really used to ignoring text messages like me then set your iPhone on ‘do not disturb’ mode.

5. I like to use this quiet time to journal (write a bunch of pointless feelings out on paper which seemingly makes me feel 10 times better!) and read the Bible (hint** if you go to the back of most Bibles then they have a page titled ‘God’s Answers to Man’s concerns’ which has a huge list of problems including; Contentment, Fear of Man, Forgiveness and Worldliness. 3 scripture verses are listed underneath each concern which enables your problem to be solved!! Thank the lord. Seek and you will find!

6. I have also started taking magnesium in the morning. Mix 1 spoonful of magnesium powder into 200 ml of water and drink throughout the day! Honestly this has made a huge difference in my health and I have only been taking it non stop for over 2 weeks now. I know that you can also get magnesium in drops or tablet form so if that works easier for you then try that out!

Start your morning with all the above or even incorporate no. 4 & 5 into your own routine and I assure you that you will be equipped to conquer the world!!!…. or even just tone it down and conquer the day.

Thanks for bearing with me throughout this post… it was a long one!

Goodnight lovelies,

Ell xxxx

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